Relationships - Who's In Your Inner Circle

From your mom to your hair dresser, you create relationships with everyone you encounter. Some of them are wonderful. Some of them are awful. Some you regret. Some you miss. Others you relish and cherish. Some are uplifting and some are not.

Its time to take a really good look at who you surround yourself with. Who they are, what they believe, and what they say and do affects you whether you want it to or not. That effect can be uplifting or it can be hugely detrimental.

When you spend too much time in relationship with someone who believes life has to be a struggle, are running "victimhood" programming, say things that spread gloom and doom predictions, or criticize you, it brings you down. You will know something isn't right because you will be having negative emotions giving you feedback that what is being thought, said, and done is not in your highest and best interest. This also applies to what you watch on television and what you read.

I had someone visit recently and it took me a week and a half to clear out all the residue from their visit - in my own energy field, mental body, and my home. I became ill and I was actually experiencing thoughts of fear and paranoia after they left. As I observed myself doing that, I realized, "This is not me." "Where the heck did these thoughts come from?" It didn't take long to figure it out. So I cleared and I dowsed and I cleared some more. And finally I came back to a balanced, centered, empowered place within myself.

Who you spend time with makes a huge difference. So I ask you, who is in your Inner Circle?

According to my good friend, Millie Stefani, one of the biggest detriments of letting "just anyone" in your inner relationship circle is that most people hold what you share with them against you. What she means by that is that the people in your inner circle are supposed to be those you can be completely vulnerable and honest with. If you don't choose spiritually mature, very allowing people to be in your inner circle, then what you end up with is people who actually judge you for whatever you are going through. And even years later, they still have you in a box that says you are a certain way. You may have actually moved beyond the issue and healed whatever problem within a few minutes after sharing it with the person. But the person might continue to think you have that same issue for the rest of your life.

Thoughts are things and when another person holds you in a certain light - believing you having certain limitations, beliefs, fears, etc. it works against you.

Most teachings about manifesting say don't tell anyone your dreams and goals. The reason is that if the people you share your dreams with don't believe you can achieve them, they project negative thoughts which cause you to have doubts. Most people are full of self doubt. And if they don't think they could achieve something, then they don't think you can either.

Once you raise your vibration, grow personally and spiritually, let go of and heal old beliefs and paradigms, its usually time for new friends and new relationships. The old ones keep you locked into who you used to be and can't allow you to be who you are now. That can be tough. The loss of anything, including an old friendship, can be quite hard.

Yet if you are dedicated to your personal and spiritual growth, some things have to change. Many people on a spiritual journey or path to enlightenment find themselves changing careers, moving, and often developing entirely new relationships. It is part of the journey.

I have always found that even though change can be difficult, once everything has settled and the healing is complete for the loss of the old way, the new situation is wonderful and I'm always thrilled that I had the courage to make the change.

As you grow, you are given opportunities to meet new people and develop new friendships. Some of these new people hold up mirrors for you so you can heal more wounds and others are simply there to share your joy and lovingly support you. Each is a gift.

We all need each other. As we grow and expand, having the right people to call or visit when we have something wonderful or something challenging to share is very important. If you often feel alone in your journey, then you need to muster up the courage to try something new - with meeting "like-minded" people as the goal. Many spiritually dedicated individuals attend churches like Unity, Unitarian, and the Church of Religious Science. I'm sure there are many others.

Sometimes you might feel drawn to attend a workshop, seminar, or ceremony. Meeting the other people who attend can sometimes be more important than the topic being presented. So always follow those inner promptings.

As I teach in Manifesting Your Beloved, you have to become what it is that you desire. If you desire a good like-minded friend. Then you have to become a good like-minded friend. Someone willing to listen without judgment, to offer support without attachment to what's in it for you, and be willing to be there at 3 a.m. if someone needs you at that time.

Traditionally blood relatives are the only ones most humans are willing to go out of their way for. I've found that I have much more in common with my spiritual family. And even though my relatives totally love and support me, its my spiritual friends that I call on when I'm in crisis. They have the ability to listen without judgment, offer advice from a spiritual perspective, and assist me in clearing and healing whatever is being faced. Those relationships are priceless.

Blessings,
Takara