Let Go Of Judgment -How Can I When They Just Aren't Doing It Right?

Your friend calls and tells you about the way she is being treated by her husband. You go into judgment while the two of you discuss at length what he is doing wrong. These conversations may go on for days, perhaps even years.

Your co-worker is being unkind, or not doing their share of the work, or talking badly about you to the boss behind your back, or a million things that co-workers tend to do. Again it is easy to become judgmental.

The bottom line - none of these people are doing it right. Well they are doing it right - according to their way of doing things. But according to you, they simply aren't doing it right. They aren't behaving the way you would behave or believe people should behave, and therefore they aren't doing it right.

Thats the thinking that needs to change.

People behave the way people behave and it is practically impossible to change any of them. And it is definitely not worth the time or effort wasted talking about it.

People are just people and they do what they do. Some behave in ways that we understand and others do not.

And it really has nothing to do with us.

I have yet to meet anyone who is perfect. Everyone has had a bad day, treated someone unkindly, made a mistake, etc. We all have: you, me, the famous author, the minister, the olympic champion, your neighbor, your mom, your dad, your sister, your friend, even your enemy.

We are all just being human doing the best we can.

If my book title, "Life works when you are happy, it sucks when you are not" is true, then being happy is a pretty important state of being to attain and maintain. You can't be happy if you are criticizing or judging someone - including yourself.

We are judgmental beings. We routinely judge others and ourselves. But it doesn't serve us. It only causes misery.

Sure we need to make decisions about what is and isn't propriate for us. We certainly don't need to hang out with people that are unkind or inconsiderate or overly selfish. But all that takes is a little observation and a decision. It does not require endless mental chatter about how "wrong" they are or direct confrontation or accusation.

Telling someone they are "wrong" only makes them angry. It doesn't help you or them in any way whatsoever.

When you say something unkind about another, notice how it makes you feel. It certainly doesn't feel good - not deep inside where it counts. When you point your finger at another, there are 3 fingers pointing back at you.

The law of cause and effect and the law of attraction are always at work. There are no exceptions to these rules. Whatever you give out, you will receive back. Whatever you do to someone else will be done to you. That includes judging others.

That is why the Golden Rule is so important: "Treat others the way you wish to be treated." If everyone could teach that to their children, the world would definitely be a better place.

Being at peace, being happy, being in flow requires that the criticism end. When you find yourself thinking "they aren't doing it right," realize you are being critical, laugh and say, "bless them for being who they are." Go on about your day with a smile on your face.

This is your challenge.

This is your journey.

This is what can set you apart from the crowd.

If you want to be happy. If you want to be free. If you want your life to work - to have friends and finances and experiences that serve you and bring you joy, then this is the perfect place to start.

No-one said that personal growth was easy. In fact, it requires a great deal of commitment and continuous focus. But it is defniitely worth the effort in the end.

Ask the Angels and the Dolphins for Help!

Call on the angels, or the dolphins, or both to assist you whenever you find yourself judging yourself or another. Their uplifting energy will instantly assist in shifting your focus from that of being critical to realizing that everyone involved is simply doing the best they can under whatever the circumstances are.

Be gentle. People are always just doing the best they can. And that includes you. Humans aren't perfect. So it is silly to expect perfection from yourself or another. As long as you do your very best to not harm another or yourself, then be pleased with that.

Let dolphins help you let go of judgment with the Dancing Dolphin Essence Highest Potential